Redefine the status quo

Dear Diary,

I came across this excerpt earlier today. It got me thinking about how easy it is to give up in the face of adversity. A few months into your journey on making your dream come true, it certainly gets harder and harder to keep going, doesn’t it? We find we’re not as full of zeal as we once were, it’s trying just to put a foot out the bed and make it to the computer to do some work. The bills are piling up and we haven’t received the glitz and glory envisioned in our dream. Instead, we’re faced with the stark reality of “amounts due”, “payable immediately”, random theft of my car wipers (why). But take heart, we will face discomfort in our pursuit of happiness. This is a good thing because we learn to grow.

Signs you’re on the right track :

  • You’re often uncomfortable
  • A little stressed, but in a different way
  • Racing mind, overthinking
  • Easily irritated and fidgety
  • Frustrated at times
  • Becoming disillusioned, starting to see things how they are, reality
  • Trying endlessly to solve problems
  • Having to self motivate constantly
  • Referring to your plan regularly to maintain focus
  • Open-mindedness
  • Listening more
  • More creative
  • Energized by achieving your goals
  • Thinking about things critically
  • Open to seeking assistance
  • Seeking out like-minded people
  • A feeling of being free and happy regardless of current circumstances
  • More hopeful
  • Able to encourage others in difficulty
  • More altruistic
  • Taking criticism positively

I read a cool thing in Robert Kiyosaki’s book “Before you quit your job”, that as an entrepreneur one has to have the ability to ‘suspend disbelief’. In a sense, it speaks of making something out of nothing and to work wonders with what you have even if it’s not much. To keep on working, even if there is no promise of breakthrough just yet. To keep on believing that your present circumstances will work together for the greater good of your end goal, and to get others to believe this too.

How do we do this?

  • Stick to a routine, that schedule you’ve set for yourself daily
  • Go see you mentor, or friend who encourages you to keep pushing
  • Find ways of alternative sources of income without giving up on your dreams
  • Speak to your creditors and work out a payment plan that suits both of you. Communicate with them instead of avoiding them.
  • Face the issues you have to deal with and come up with viable solutions for them
  • Don’t give up!

Reading the fine print. Meaning don’t get unpleasantly surprised. We must be fully aware of all the details pertaining to making this work and we must be prepared to deal with the consequences of our decisions at every step of the process. Redefine the way things have always been done. Some processes should never be repeated again but happen over and over again because some people are ignorant of a better way to do something. Or just comfortably willingly ignorant. Don’t be that person. Seek to improve processes and if necessary change them or discard them altogether. Set new standards for an inclusive society of equal opportunity, challenge elitist separatist thinking. Be growth-oriented.

Did you know the brain actually creates new neural pathways when we challenge ourselves to do something new or in a different way than before. We are so reliant on existing patterns of thinking that when repeated become short cuts we rely on for quick-fire decision making, this forms part of a psychological study of Heuristic thinking. This is also what contributes to your world view, one that often becomes rigid over time. Setting in motion your status quo, the way you’ve always done things because of how you’ve experienced things and have known them to be. So if we choose differently and do differently and repeat these behaviours, we create new ways of registering information in our brain. This is growth on a neuropsychological level and scientific proof that we can change if we apply ourselves 😉 We have no excuse, we can train our brain toward change. We just have to stick to the process and not give up.

Excerpt from Very Well Mind:

(Link to resource below)

It will be easier to give up and regress into comfort but don’t. It’s a trap. Knuckle down and keep moving forward. You can do it. You are living your truth when you do. People around you might not understand what you are doing or why. But you do, you understand, you know why! End of story.

Until tomorrow, dear Diary.

Life in retrospect

“Before you quit your job”

Dear Diary

It’s been a while. I’ve been struggling with this new form of disease, procrastination. Why do we feel like this? Why is there an overwhelming desire in me to self-sabotage? To cut ties with the possibility of things and to go back to what was once sure, the past. My comfort of employ and letting my boss make decisions for the future. To walk and constantly be looking back is not only a dangerous notion but, also rather impossible to continue. Failure in this distracted pursuit is a certainty.

So what am I to do Diary? I must CHANGE.

Change the way I think. Change the way I do things. Change. Since this has been such a struggle I must challenge myself toward change. My dream to start my own business is my responsibility alone and if it requires me to change for the better in order to be successful then I must oblige. No one else will do this for me. It’s been said that “the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour”. Does this mean one is helpless in continuing the vicious cycle of mistakes made in life? What if there is a desire to be different? To affect outcomes in a positive way than what has resulted before? Diary, I believe this cycle can not only be disrupted but averted if one is willing to change. If one were to “turn from” thinking that will with certainty end in a negative result because you’ve made that mistake in judgement before, the most logical conclusion is, therefore, to learn from mistakes and divert thinking toward something else…to change my thinking. We say change is difficult or that “people don’t change”. Why? Perhaps this is an error in judgement too, perhaps even typecasting. We’ve been built up to certain traits, habits and allowed ourselves to become predictable to the point of a character profile or type to others close to us. So the cycles of behaviour be it negative or positive has been used to define us. If one talks about ‘types’ and ‘profiles’ then is this not also a type of looking back constantly to find skeletons there and create ghosts of them who come after us and spook us into the same behavioural patterns we seem ‘destined’ to repeat. My point here Diary, is that if we focus on past behaviour long enough, failure long enough we will repeat it and we will set in motion a destiny for it.

But what of change? To ‘turn from’ something comfortable and venture into a type nothingness. A venture that has no guarantee. A seedling for which you are tasked with turning into an oak. So then I must learn about gardening and the basic principles of keeping a seedling alive. In entrepreneurship, if I am tasked with building successful businesses then I must be willing to learn something new to make that happen. To keep the dream alive.

Factors that keep us from moving forward:

  • Fear: of change, of failure, of judgement, of lack of support, of looking foolish
  • Expectation: what others presume for us to do
  • Liability: things that are owed to others e.g. Debts, home loans, school fees
  • Comfort: unwillingness to make necessary sacrifices for growth
  • Ignorance: about information, not testing sources, not seeking out ways to learn and understand for oneself

Factors that keep us moving forward:

  • Willingness: to learn, to try, to ask or question, to test and be tested, to change
  • Motivation: a desire to do more than what’s required
  • Caring for something other than yourself
  • Information and knowledge: to seek these constantly
  • Commitment: to leave only once it’s done or when you’re not required anymore
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself"  Leo Tolstoy

How true Diary. My barrier isn’t lack of start-up money, staff, business plans, motivation, partners but it is ME. I must change my focus in order for my business to be successful. I must be willing to do something different for a different result.

Until tomorrow, dear Diary.

Resources:

“Before you quit your job” by Robert Kiyosaki

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YENo61PkPek (audiobook)